Came across a very unique thought today. When we have to
join a college, or join/change a job, or when we have to go to a new country,
there are so many mandatory requirements that one has to meet and many documents
that we have to produce. I started surfing on net with the thought in mind when
I got to see the following things. Well the list is not exhaustive; it’s just a
collection from various websites and links. So I have made an inter comparison
of mandatory requirements for selecting the life partners and documents that we
usually get to see. There are certain
details which are mentioned/required for selecting the life partner, but not
for job or education.
Mandatory Requirements
For Job/ Education
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From matrimony perspective
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You must be a citizen of
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Preferably not a resident of
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Minimum 50 percentages in graduation and post graduation, from the
reputed institutes, in few PSU’s, while recruitment, names of the institutes
are also specified.
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People just know engineers, doctors and CA by profession. There is
nothing like passion which people consider with which person has selected his
career. Even in case of engineers and doctors,
name of the institute is rarely known, if at we know, percentage and scores
are never known.
However girls who have studied abroad are definitely preferred, who
cares if they paid and went there or after getting scholarship? Those who
would have struggled to make it to best Indian college and institutes are
secondary.
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Minimum 17 years of education
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If it is 15, as long as you are earning well, I don’t care.
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Minimum work experience of 5 years in a well reputed multinational
company whose turnover is minimum one million
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We know work experience, but we hardly get to know the previous companies
Girls working are also a problem ,as the ego of guys and his family
would clash and non working are also not preferred, as most of them wouldn’t
be highly read, none of the girl well read would prefer to sit at home and be
a home maker.
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Number of attempts to write an exam is also fixed. For example to
become an IAS, if you belong to the “Open Category” you can give the exam 4
times maximum!
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Marriage has only one and
final attempt.
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Candidates should not have been arrested, convicted or prosecuted on
criminal charges.
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No clue unless , one commits on their own
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Medical standards
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Height
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Weight
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Eye sight 6/6, without glasses
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Although not up to the standards, yet by looking at person the
following could be judged.
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Skills required
For Job/ Education
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From matrimony perspective
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Leadership skills
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Mandate when it comes to a marriage, but how can we judge the same?
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Self motivator to take up responsibility
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Communication skills
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Pro activeness in generating new ideas
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Qualifying exams for various exams
(providing score of the following)
For Job/ Education
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From matrimony perspective
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TOFEL
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No exam or interview for the individual.
Only society’s reference is required. Develop
your PR skills and you are through it. And make an excellent profile in
matrimonial sites.
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GRE
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CAT
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CDSE
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GMAT
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XSAT
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Any other exam(please specify)
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To be bought on the day of the
interview or the first meet in case of the matrimony
For Job/ Education
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From matrimony perspective things that’s are bought are
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Statement of purpose
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All that is bought is fruits, sweets, clothes for the entire
families, jewellary from both sides, and girl as well the guy. Followed by a
big lunch in which people just land up eating and the concerns are lost.
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Original certificate of 10th for date of birth
verification
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Original mark sheet of 10+2
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Original mark sheets of graduation and post graduation
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Identity proof including passport , driving license
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Character certificate from school/college
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Referral contact details
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Only the following criteria is met because of the relatives who come
to attend the functions of ROKA or to see the girl/guy
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To be submitted before joining /
wedding day activities
For Job/ Education
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From matrimony perspective
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Joinee should be on time to the venue to attend the induction.
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Entire families would be present than just the girl and the guy .time
of arrival would be few weeks prior to the date of the wedding.
Besides All this is required is arrangement of caterer, hall booking,
transport arrangements to reach the venue, vaidyaar mama has to be present.
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Medical checkup certificate post the medical checkup by the specified
hospitals (eye sight and height weights proofs also to be submitted)
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That would be the biggest offence to ask for any such thing. We don’t mean to offend anyone, but let’s
try to start a life with the truthful note, irrespective of the fact that
girl has to disclose or the guy.
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Attested Address proof (permanent and temporary )
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Only we go to visit the guy or girls home and see, but we don’t know
if it’s a rented flat or their own home. They may claim it’s our own house,
but do we ever check the papers? It’s applicable for both guys and girls.
When it comes to guy owning a house, yes it’s in his name, but they would
never talk about the loan which he would be paying for the same. The girl
also has a contribution as she is forgoing something to repay the loan, but
“the house would be in guys’ name”.
But ironically a girl can’t own a house itself. Off late I fumed up
when I got to know a bank doesn’t offer a joint loan to mother daughter or
two sisters won’t be offered loan. Indian legal system itself is still
biased.
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Attested Employment proofs (Current Employer)
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Appointment letter & Last two months pay
slips
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Resignation Acceptance
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Relieving letter
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Half of the times salaries mentioned in matrimony sites are like what
companies mentions as total earning capacity, which would be actually double
of what individual is going to earn. No one mentions the actually in hand
salary.
Girls if earning less, then she is commented that your salary won’t
be enough to buy nappies for the kids. If girls earn more, guys feel why at
all should they work? And entire family runs or depends on her salary.
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Attested Employment proofs (Previous 2 Employers)
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Appointment letter & two months pay
slips
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Resignation & Relieving Letter
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We don’t even know who previous employers were; leave apart the
documents to be asked.
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Documents required for obtaining a
VISA or post wedding issues could be resolved if the following are considered.
Why a country wants to know the following before a person enters his/her
country is to avoid any kind of issues post that and that it doesn’t hamper the
pride and image of an organization.
For Job/ Education
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From matrimony perspective
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6 Months Valid Passport from the Date of Travel with the old Passport
if any.
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All I can put here is big
smiley. I don’t have any rights on bank statements before the wedding. What
do one has to do with property of the other individual? What has one got to
do with the saving of the other, we will do post the wedding, and you can’t
question me on that. I have a nick name to call you, whatever your name is,
doesn’t matter to me.
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Last 6 Months Bank Statements
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Last 3 Years Income Tax Returns Acknowledgement
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Property Papers
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Saving Certificate
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Legal name change documents required
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