Expression of Love

As we all sat in the restaurant to enjoy the birthday treat of a dear friend, I loved the way he expressed his love for his to be wife and so was her way of expressing love for her to be husband (my dear friend). Although they are Girlfriend- Boyfriend, but I think defining them with those words would be quite a weak thing for the extreme love they are in with each other. We are all awaiting for the wedding bells to ring for them. Being the youngest of the lot, they have something huge to teach us all –The commitment with loyalty and trust! Commitment a word which is a reason of fear for the bravest of the brave, the strongest of the strong.


I may use the words girlfriend boyfriend for those who don’t know if they would actually get married, but at the moment it feels like they are made for each other. When two people know they like each other, but they still don’t know their own priorities in life. Ohk not diverting from the topic, as I see them, I realized there is not just one way to express love, but thousands of them.

Listing down few ways of expressing love which came to my mind:

Mutual respect: You respect your partner and their decision or suggestion plays a key role in decisions you take, however small or big they are.

Adoration: you love the way they are. You may adore their perfection or their imperfection. You may adore their command for respect or their love for nature. There may be no reason, but you still adore them.

Leg pulling love or Frustrating love: To constantly do something which you partner hate. And to ensure that your partner is watching you doing that. You constantly make fun of them, but nothing offends either of them, as it’s a way of expressing your love.

Giving up love: As one continuously frustrates other, either of them gives up. Giving up is not a sign of weakness, but a way of expressing your love.

Fighting Love: I hate to see you with another girl or you can’t tolerate to see me other guy. Well call it possessiveness or jealously or envy, the root cause of the problem is just the one, you love them. So to express it, all you do is to fight. Well that increases your love and never decreases.

Assertive love: you support each other to grow up the ladder in life, whether personal or professional. You motivate each other at the worst and best of the times. You wish to celebrate your success and failures with just them. And that’s assertive love.

Dignified love: You are proud to introduce them to your set of friends. You let her speak and allow her or him to grace the event, however small or big it may be. You honor them, for completing your life.

Hidden love: No one ever express it, neither to each other, nor to the world. A contended feeling in both the partners is nothing but love.

Freedom love: Giving each other the space they require, the freedom to live their life the way they want. The love should be the binding force for the commitment and not a reason to bind someone.

Public displayal of affection: Last but not the least, the public displayal of affection which I believe is the toughest way of expressing ones love as it takes lot of courage to project the love in the right way. And I believe it what proves that I don’t care about the world as you are world for me.




The one who was in your mind while reading all is the one whom you truly love, don’t hesitate to go and commit your love, who knows they may already like you too, but may be their way of expressing it was different from how you wanted them to do! As far as my dear friend and his love is concerned, it’s not one way , but they expressed their love in all possible ways and finally my friend’s to be wife declared “Didi, he never expresses his love”, to which we all laughed and said “because he likes someone else” to create a jealously feeling.

Connecting the learning’s of life to life!

Recently I met someone, who didn’t know me. After having some brief interactions I got a response from the person “God!! You are an extrovert”.

Mathematics

Formula number 1:

(+)  * (+)=(+)

(-)  * (-)=(+)

(-) * (+)=(-)



And I don’t know if people can remember, in theorems we would write

• Assumptions

• To be proved

• Proof

And after completing the proof, the last line would be Hence proved

Well I have tried to bluff in my exam answer sheets when I would forget couple of steps in the proof and write hence proved in the end, but my bluff never worked and marks were deducted. Hence I got the theorem for my life “Bluff would never work”

Although I did study mathematics in my graduation, but eventually I started hating formulas because life can’t be lived with a formula. But I did like few of them which I could connect to my real life.

Connecting to the statement “God, you are an extrovert”. A positive word in a negative situation which makes things negative as per the formula. Well it would be difficult to explain the situation, so please assume, although I wouldn’t bluff in the proof.


Civics

One of the 6 fundamental rights recognized by constitution of India is right to freedom which includes speech and expression. (Ohk honestly, I just remembered the right to speech, rest of the words I Googled to specifically define here what I meant to express!)

Connecting to the statement “God, you are an extrovert”. I love to express my emotions and yes I don’t think before I speak. I love to use this fundamental right to the fullest. Unless it’s going to offend or hurt someone, I don’t think I need to think.


Biology

Darwin theory of survival of the fittest. Well I don’t think any explanation is required on this.

Connecting to the statement “God, you are an extrovert”. I believe every individual has something special, some unique attitude and that’s what makes them special and they survive in this world full of competition. I had always thought my extrovert nature was my way to be the survival of the fittest. But then the reaction did make me think, is that what make me survive, or I need to think of something other attitude which is unique about me.


Physics

Newton’s law of every action has equal and opposite reaction.

Connecting to the statement “God, you are an extrovert”. You call me an extrovert, and I realize you are an introvert. But I have learnt recently that we have no rights to judge anyone. In such a brief conversation, I get to hear being an extrovert is a negative thing. At first, my mind didn’t want to really accept it, because that was what my friends, close friends and also not so close friends liked about me. But then I realized by not accepting I would be depriving the individual of their freedom to express. And I suddenly remembered one bad advertisement of Govinda in which he says“ maana maine dhakka diya, par tune kyun liya”.


Chemistry

I hated this subject; I hate to implement it in my life too. Only thing I had loved was in chemistry lab, when I would mix two transparent liquids in one tube, suddenly the colors would change to bright red or pink. And throughout my life, I mixed things to see if I can generate laughing gas in the lab to make my serious and strict chemistry teacher laugh, but that never happened. Although I was never disappointed, as I would imagine my chemistry laughing madly, which would make me laugh.

So I am not connecting to the statement “God, you are an extrovert”. But the laboratory experiments, I still apply in real life as I feel when right things fall in place, life becomes amazingly colorful. I believe one can create laughing gas around without actually using any chemicals. I am still in the learning phase of this experiment, but I know I would learn someday.



Marketing

I feel being more educated makes the person stop using his common sense. As I do the MBA in marketing, I forgot what I learnt as a kid in all these subjects of physics chemistry and mathematics. My life runs based on the 4P’s of marketing.

• Product: as I focus on the materialist things I have in life

• Price: I would rephrase this as value. Whenever I do something , I think of how people would value it, whether good or bad

• Place: By adopting the policy of be a roman in Rome, I often look for my lost identity as I change according the place or circumstances

• Promotion: it was the only P out of 4 that I thought I had applied positively in my life by being an extrovert

Now that I connect promotions to the statement “God, you are an extrovert”, and that too in a negative sense, I wondered did I apply that also wrongly?