Came across an article in LinkedIn and really liked the following lines:-
Then there is a person who never gives you a straight answer – everything is a joke. The jokes are really a shield from getting to know the person. It can be funny once or twice, but not all the time.
A few winters ago, I was talking to an executive who was off to a vacation in the Caribbean. I asked, “Where are you staying?” I thought I would hear about some really nice, cool place that I could learn about – even if I could not afford it.
Instead, her answer was tongue-in-cheek, “Oh we are staying at a cheap Holiday Inn.” While I have often stayed at Holiday Inns (some cheap, some not), I was supposed to find the answer cute or funny. I did not.
The reason I did not find it funny is that I really never could get a straight answer from that person. Talking to her became a stupid, exhausting game. Conclusion: "Spending less time with her was a gift to myself."
I had come across people who had or rather who thought they had good sense of humor. Others appreciated that and loved to be around such people, but I was never comfortable to be around people with high sense of humor or the ones who thought they had one. After reading the above article I realized I wasn’t the only one not to find others stupid answers to a direct question as cute or funny.
Next time, if you wish to highlight your “sense of humor” as a great attribute of yours, please give a second thought.
Some of the things I believe people who think they with high sense of humor suffer with are listed below. No human being is right, so I have the right to be wrong, and if the blog offends those with the high sense of humor, then they don’t have good sense of humor and that they only think they have one. Else this could have been a topic of humor as well!
•Need an audience to laugh - let there not be right set of people to laugh, all their sense of humor would be lost
•Need a targeted topic or a person to project themselves as a person with sense of humor– Making fun of a person because they are bald, dark or short are definitely not good sense of humor. There are some things which an individual cannot change about themselves.
•They are not patient listeners and attention seekers- Be around a person who thinks to have a good sense of humor, you can never complete what you wanted to say. They tend to crack some joke in between on what you said and would have grabbed all the attention towards themselves. You would keep wishing you got the space to complete what you wanted to say.
•Extremely bad sense of timings – You would have had a bad fight with your boss, mother or your spouse. Never dare to discuss the problem with such people as that would have already become a topic of laugh and floating in the air amongst people. These people, who think they have good sense of humor, do not understand the situation and time and always on lookout for topic to crack some silly joke to entertain the audience around. What may be important to you is only a topic of humor to them.
•Like to watch some crappy shows - I tried watching some of these laughter shows (wouldn’t name them here) couple of times and I never found them to be funny. The host claims and flaunts to be a person of Good sense of humor at the cost of insulting the live audience sitting there. Whoaa!! People get paid to insult people and we happily watch in the name of “Good sense of humor?”
Please call yourself a person with good sense of humor if you don’t have your own audience to laugh, it is not targeted at a person who is helpless about something and you have allowed the person to complete what he or she wanted to say before cracking the silly line, which you think would be a joke!
We do say laughter is the best medicine, but I do wonder do we always need good sense of humor to laugh. Today these “assumed to be happy creatures” are making fun of others in the name of sense of humor, is there a guarantee that you wouldn’t the topic of their humor tomorrow? If you are ready to face, be the audience. Else please treat only the people with real sense of humor as entertainers and don’t be all ears for rubbish jokers.
Note: The blog does not intent to offend feelings and sentiments of anyone other than the people who assume they have good sense of humor!:p
