Role of society in our lives

 

I recently came across a term called “Society”. That led me to think why we do everything in the name of the society, what role does it have in our lives? Is our perception about the society correct?

Society (assuming it to be the family and friends) came to see the child when it was born, but it was the parents who saw the child taking his or her first step, walking on its own.

When the child was one year old, the society would come to attend the birthday, but it was the parents, who struggled to bring up the children and so would they in future.

As the child grew older, on the day of the results the society came rushing to ask “How much marks have you scored in your board exams?”, but it was the parents who were awake all night, throughout the year to see their child study and would work day long at office to provide the kids with all the facilities.

Society came to ask “which engineering, medical college have you joined?”, but the parents would help the children identify their goals and potential to make them successful in their career and life. It is not a one minute game, but process of years to achieve the goals.

Society comes to ask me “where have you got placed, and what is the package (package referring to the salary)?” but it the parents who support financially and mentally during the years of our study to let us be in the position where we are today.

Now the real societal pressure begins for the parents and their children. In any social occasions they go, they would ask “Aren’t you getting your children married, I know a girl / boy, would forward the horoscopes to you.”  Parents just don’t want to catch hold of any girl or the boy to get their children married but they want to search someone with whom they can be happy.

Assuming that parents finally were able to identify the partner for their kids, Society would come to the wedding, eat, pass few comments, asking the above mentioned questions to others and leave. The parents would have spent lakhs and lakhs of rupees to get their children married, and it would be only the parents who would see their children grow in life after the wedding and not the society.

Then again the children are going to have their kids, when the society would come again for their birth, and the cycle of the societal domination begins for the next generation ……..

However the reality is that at some point of time, we also become the part of this society, even after being the victim of this society. We often forget what has happened with us, or assume that it could never happen to us.

We are all living at the mercy of the society in the name of “socializing with people”. Someone has to stop and show to society, we do not live for showing it off to you, but for our own self.

The day we die, society would definitely come to mourn the death, give their precious comments, ‘oh he was such a gentle man’, or ‘she was such a good lady’, but they may not even know, how we have lived our lives.

Whenever we take a decision , we should ask our own self “am I doing because I am going to be happy, or I want to show off to the society?” and we would never take a wrong decision in our  life.